Read This Before You Make Any Resolutions this Year
In ancient Rome, Janus was the god of beginnings and transitions, and also of gates, doorways, passages, endings, and time. The Romans named the month of January (Ianuarius) in his honor.
He is usually depicted as having two faces, since he looked both to the future and to the past. Janus was the guardian of the transition from one state to another, and only through his direction could things transform and change to something different.
In the Western world, January is traditionally a time of new beginnings.
Something about starting a fresh new year, wiping the slate clean of our foibles and fumbles, and beginning anew is stored in our collective psyche as the lingering hope that we each have the ability to re-create ourselves. To shed whatever skin no longer fits or suits us, and try on a new and truer version of whom we want to become. To transform into a new and better version of what we think we could be.
We all know the New Year’s Resolution drill. We vow to lose the weight that does disservice to our health and appearance, exercise more, improve our relationships…and the list goes on.
We also know all too well that within a month or two, most of us will have abandoned our noble declarations. More often than not, everyday life gets in the way of our January resolutions and despite the best of intentions, our comfort zones and old habits conquer us.
Yet regardless of their odds of sticking, we continue to be drawn with hope to the idea of the possibility of the power of our own resolve and commitment to change.
I think this is because we intuitively know that within us lies a force of unlimited power. We alone control the doorway to transformation. If we can only draw upon it and direct it with discipline, consistency, and conviction, we somehow already know that we can create whatever it is that we resolve.
Accessing our ability to transform ourself is also frightening. Stepping through a new doorway into a realm of unknown overwhelms us out of our comfort zone, disrupts our mental models of what is possible, and causes us to re-evaluate ourselves.
It leaves us with the new-found accountability that our true power lies not outside us, coming from circumstances and luck, but is always right there, waiting inside us to be released in full force.
In order to access it, we must shed the old face and walk through a totally new doorway– shedding our past habits and creating new ones. Creating a new identity and shedding the old skin.
So rather than tips or suggestions in this post– I am writing this post to prompt you to look inside yourself to the future.
My soul-searching questions to you at the beginning of this New Year are simple:
What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing?
What do you need to let go of this year?
Who do you want to be this year?
What three actions do you need to take to create what you want this year?
Like Janus, I challenge you to consider who you are creating yourself to be in the future, and what old behaviors no longer serve you.
You alone own the transition from your old state to the new one.
You alone are the keeper standing at the arc of that doorway.
Who you are and who you become consist of the choices and actions you exhibit right now, in the present. Today.
This January, will you make the choice to own that simple fact and step through a new doorway?
And will you commit to the new path– without going back?